Indian Parents
I am a 20 something girl living in Bangalore. I love my parents and family. I need to talk to them daily at least 3 times and every time it is about a guy and why I should get married to him. And as long as I do not say yes, I cannot cut the call. After a tired day in office, I am supposed to listen to the description of the same guys at least a ten times.
Every time I am told how getting married is the most important thing in my life. How without marriage I cannot be happy, and how I cannot be responsible about my money, how I cannot live alone without marriage. Basically a girl cannot exist without marriage. How they have been dishonored in society because I am a single independent girl.
It feels like Indian Parents think, girls always need to be taken care of. First parents and once she is matured, then husband. They have blackmailed me saying, how I am not safe without marriage. How a husband would take care of me when I am late from office. If I am out till late, I get scolded saying, I should get married so that they do not have any concerns.
I do not know, how many times my parents will call me once I am married. Why the world thinks a woman cannot live alone, and a good woman always have to be answerable to somebody. Once parents are old enough, she should be married off, so that her husband may question her.
Parents would suddenly be patients of heart disease and blood pressure. They start feeling like committing suicide. I wonder when our life is so perfect, when all of us are alive and healthy and financially stable what kills them, what makes them so sad and upset.
They see that their daughter is happy and free, then why they feel so sad. As parents, their happiness should lie in our happiness and not in following the societies' norms.
Every time I am told how getting married is the most important thing in my life. How without marriage I cannot be happy, and how I cannot be responsible about my money, how I cannot live alone without marriage. Basically a girl cannot exist without marriage. How they have been dishonored in society because I am a single independent girl.
It feels like Indian Parents think, girls always need to be taken care of. First parents and once she is matured, then husband. They have blackmailed me saying, how I am not safe without marriage. How a husband would take care of me when I am late from office. If I am out till late, I get scolded saying, I should get married so that they do not have any concerns.
I do not know, how many times my parents will call me once I am married. Why the world thinks a woman cannot live alone, and a good woman always have to be answerable to somebody. Once parents are old enough, she should be married off, so that her husband may question her.
Parents would suddenly be patients of heart disease and blood pressure. They start feeling like committing suicide. I wonder when our life is so perfect, when all of us are alive and healthy and financially stable what kills them, what makes them so sad and upset.
They see that their daughter is happy and free, then why they feel so sad. As parents, their happiness should lie in our happiness and not in following the societies' norms.
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